As human beings, we tend to want to hold on to things even if they are not good for us. One of the deterrents to living an abundant life is investing in unhealthy relationships. Relationships are a part of the human experience we all need them to survive, but the toxic ones we can do without. We should never become so dependent on another person that we allow them to dictate the terms of our happiness. If relationships are not serving our best interest and don’t bring out the best in us, something is lacking. If the people we invite into our space are not making us feel alive and worthy, then something is wrong. Healthy relationships should bring us to the place where we want to continue pressing on despite the challenges that are ahead. It should not be that when we think of the people, we are involved with it causes pain, distress, heartache and a myriad of health problems. If this is happening, then the conclusion is that our relationships are toxic and needs to go where only waste can survive.
Nobody should be so important to us that we are willing to be their prisoner, whether emotionally, psychologically, spiritually or otherwise. The people who invest in keeping others captive are nothing short of selfish and will eventually take more than they are willing to give. People who want to know what it means to live with passion and purpose can’t do so by holding on to toxic relationships. Learning how to free ourselves of people who add little value to our lives is hard to do, but if we want to live, it must be done. Every now and then we will need to do an inventory of the people we have around us, and those who are not serving a purpose will need to go. It is not a selfish thing, bear in mind that while we are doing this to some people in our lives, others are doing the same to us, it is just the cycle of life.
If it’s toxic, let it go, or it will eventually drain or even kill you. There is nothing more burdensome to human development than a relationship going nowhere. It literally kills the spirit, robs us of creativity and leads us into victimhood instead of personhood. Just look around, how many people do we know in unhealthy relationships are enjoying abundant living? When we speak of abundant living, we must also understand that the relationships that we form and maintain are a part of the process. Toxic relationships cannot survive, but how much of our time and effort we spend investing in them is up to us. We should not allow fear of the unknown make us hold to relationships that are not causing us to experience the peace of God. Relationships that don’t drive us to test the boundaries of our limitations are hardly worth the time. If it is toxic, let it go because eventually, if we are not careful, it will claim our entire being.